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This week’s post is a little short because I broke my darn wrist and the combo of typing with one hand and potentially nodding out from percoset is making blog writing a highly undesirable activity.
But I just had to weigh in on the Samantha Brick story from a bit of a different perspective.
If you haven’t heard of Samantha Brick yet, you are a lucky, lucky person and I feel really bad about potentially ruining your day. Ms. Brick recently wrote a bizarre article for the Daily Mail in which she shared why being attractive is really so terribly awful. To summarize, you get a lot of free stuff from dudes but women hate your guts for it. As you can imagine, much Internet ire was raised by this supposition, so she issued another article about what she termed a “witch hunt.”
Even though I can’t quite figure out why Ms. Brick chose to write these pieces, I feel like she’s articulating a worldview that we’re all sold everyday. If we’re to believe the media, the most important thing for a woman is to retain the male gaze for as long as possible so that we can acquire wealth, baubles, status, and more male interest. And because there’s only so much male gaze to go around, we’re going to have to fight other women for it, hence, not so pretty women are supposed to hate the pretty ones for taking up more precious male interest.
Of course, this belief is deeply patriarchal, but it’s also deeply antithetical to divine feminine principles, particularly the principle of abundance. When you connect with the principle of abundance, you begin to see the beauty in everyone. That feeling of scarcity lessens, and you connect with the feelings of hope and possibility. And you understand that the struggle is not for something seen as scarce, like male interest or whatever. The struggle is bringing more of the divine feminine back into our lives so that we see the true nature of our abundant selves.
In other, potentially less fluffy words, feeling beautiful and attractive is totally wonderful, but assuming that you’re one of the few lucky ones and everyone hates you for it is just b.s.
Okay, the percoset is seriously setting in. Luckily, we can talk about divine feminine principles a lot more in my upcoming free teleclass, where I will explain this all more clearly.
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