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Fatshionable apples wearing bikinis make me happy!

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I am wearing the well known plus size galaxy bikini designed by blogger gabifresh for swimsuitsforall, I was among the lucky ones to grab it online before it was sold out. To me as I am bustier and thus have a shorter torso, the bottom is a little too high (looks like a one piece) and the bra would have felt better on with an underwire, anyway I really love the print and color and the quality of the fabric and hope there will be more options for plus size bikinis in the future. After I discovered bikinis I don’t want to wear one pieces anymore since I’ve done that for more than 30 years…

New Fatshionable Apples post!
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My name is Candace and this is me at my very good friend’s engagement party. I will be her MOH and I’m pretty proud of that.
My dress is from Torrid and my happiness is from my awesome life.
I am 5’10, 225 lbs, and I wear a size 18.
I also blog sometimes about learning to take care of and appreciate my body: Candacebetter.blogspot.com
P.S. Thank you Golda for this space. Even though this tumblr is fairly new it has helped me tremendously already :)

New Fatshionable Apples post!

fatshionableapples:

My name is Candace and this is me at my very good friend’s engagement party. I will be her MOH and I’m pretty proud of that.

My dress is from Torrid and my happiness is from my awesome life.

I am 5’10, 225 lbs, and I wear a size 18.

I also blog sometimes about learning to take care of and appreciate my body: Candacebetter.blogspot.com

P.S. Thank you Golda for this space. Even though this tumblr is fairly new it has helped me tremendously already :)

Hate Your Body? Take *More* Pics!

My friends may have regretted letting me play their “reindeer games.”

I used to really avoid being…

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Yay! I love this Ouija board top! Thanks for the submission.

fatshionableapples:

Top is Torrid 4x, it shrunk in the length after wash however, skirt in Romans 2x, I could have gone smaller, I like how the skirt comes up higher only over one leg so it does not accentuate my belly.

Link added by Golda.

It’s my new fatshion tumblr! Follow us and submit your photos!!!

fatshionableapples:

Hi there!

My name is Golda Poretsky, HHC. If you know me at all, you probably know me from as a body image coach and blogger over at Body Love Wellness or from this TEDx talk on Why It’s Okay To Be Fat.

I started this tumblr because (a) I love clothes, (b) sometimes finding clothes and…

Introducing … Fatshionable Apples!

Hi everyone!

I hope you’ll take a moment to check out and follow my new tumblr “Fatshionable…

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Igigi Giveaway This Week!

Hi, my dears!

As some of you may remember, Igigi dressed me for my TEDx talk on Why It’s Okay To Be…

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(Listen to the interview here, or  on itunes!)

I’ll never forget the first day I walked into Lee Lee’s Valise. The store was just beautiful – I loved everything from the gorgeous jewel-toned clothes to the big dressing rooms with velvet damask curtains. And, of course, there was Lisa Dolan, the store owner, who made me feel at home from the first instant.

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So I was absolutely thrilled when I heard that the show would be the focus of a new TLC show called, “Big Brooklyn Style.” The show, which is now in reruns for the summer, features Lisa as she deals with customers, designs clothes, and works with her staff which include her husband, daughter and cousin.

That was always the magic of Lee Lee’s Valise. Shopping there felt like shopping with your cool big sister, one who has an eye for design and knows instantly what’s going to look great on you. That family vibe is something that Lisa has created intentionally, both because her staff includes her family and because of the way she deals with her customers, “Family is super important to me,” she shared. “I can always count on family to be honest with me and be there to help me.”

Over the years, I would sometimes catch a glimpse of the store on TLC’s What Not To Wear. It was pretty much guaranteed that if the woman on the show was plus sized, they would end up at Lee Lee’s on the second shopping day. Apparently, What Not To Wear co-host Stacy London (who is the executive producer of Big Brooklyn Style) came in to check out Lisa’s store for What Not To Wear on the second day it was open. I asked Lisa about how her store came to be a regular feature on What Not To Wear. "We made it easy for them," she told me. "We were who we are. We were kind and generous and we stayed til 3 in the morning the night before to make the store look TV ready." Lisa and her staff would even dress the mannequins to the "rules" for the makeover guest. "And we fed them," she confided. "I mean, you’re in Brooklyn."

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Stacy and her co-host Clinton Kelly would often say to Lisa that she should have her own show. More recently, talking about it got more serious. After pitching it to TLC, they got the green light and shot a sizzle reel in February 2011. This year, things started moving more quickly - actual shooting for the 8 episode run didn’t start until January 2012 for an air date in May.

It’s a rarity to see a show about plus sized women that isn’t about weight loss. I asked Lisa if that was something she had to fight for. “I wanted to make the show just be about the clothes,” she said. “The one thing I didn’t want in it was crying… . I really stood strong on that.” She would say things like, “this woman is a strong woman, she’s just coming in to get a freakin’ dress. The end.” She wanted to show a more realistic view of plus sized women as regular women who live their lives. “I wanted to show that there are confident, beautiful women coming in to buy a new dress for an event or something for work, because that’s what we’re about. We’re real people.”

As of right now, a second season of the show isn’t in the works, but Lisa asks that fans of the show tweet to TLC that they want a new season. (To do this really easily, click the box below.)

In the meantime, you can check out Lee Lee’s Valise in Carroll Gardens, Brooklyn (or online) and check out the fan pages for Big Brooklyn Style (on facebook and twitter) and Lee Lee’s Valise (on facebook and twitter). You can also listen to a fuller version of the interview by clicking the podcast button at the top of this post or checking it out on itunes.

Golda is a certified holistic health counselor and founder of Body Love Wellness, a program designed for plus-sized women who are fed up with dieting and want support to stop obsessing about food and weight. Go to http://www.bodylovewellness.com/free to get her NEW free gift — Golda’s Top 5 Tips For Consistently Feeling Great In Your Body!

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by Golda Poretsky, H.H.C.
www.bodylovewellness.com

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Velvet D’Amour is a Renaissance woman in the truest sense.  Born in Rochester, New York, Velvet went to Paris in her late 20’s to pursue dance and photography, and since then she has walked the runways of Paris (at age 39 and weighing around 300 pounds), been sought after by renowned photographers, appeared in French films, music videos and French, Swiss, and Japanese TV, and continued to take photographs for magazines.  If you’re here in the U.S., may know her as a judge on M’onique’s Fat Chance, and from appearances on Entertainment Tonight, E News and CBS Sunday Morning. In 2010, Velvet was selected to participate in TF1’s, La Ferme Celebritie (Celebrity Farm), where she made it through nine of the ten weeks living in the rough, caring for wild animals on a nature reserve in South Africa. Velvet raised over $73,000 for her chosen charity, SOS Enfants Disparus.

But Velvet’s road to fat positive stardom wasn’t paved with gold stars. In her late teens, she considered modeling.  Weighing around 140 pounds, she was told by modeling scouts that she had the face for it but would have to lose weight.  She went on a crash diet and managed to get down to 117 pounds, and was told again that she was too fat to model. “The more severely I dieted, the more fat I got,” she said.  “I’d have these big extremes of eating tons and then starving myself.” Because she couldn’t maintain the size she needed to be to please the modeling agencies, body hatred set in.

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As it happens for many body positive folks, Velvet reached a turning point where she started to see her struggle to conform to beauty standards as a larger struggle.  “I started questioning our ideals of beauty and why I hated fat and I why I didn’t like looking fat… . The more I questioned it, the more rebellious I felt about it, the more I tried to find images that somehow related to how I looked and the more difficult it became [to find them].” Part of the reason why Velvet turned to photography was to help herself and others let go of our singular ideas around beauty.  “We’ve evolved so much in society that we don’t need to consistently leave people out.  We can open up our ideal of beauty to be more accepting and find beauty in every individual.”  She thinks that one of the reason why fatness is so dreaded and derided in our society is that fat is often depicted as unsexy and non-seductive.  “I started emulating photos that I would see in regular fashion magazines but using myself … and it ended up helping me and a lot of other people.  I would try to make the images so seductive that you had to question something.”

It was photography that led Velvet back into modeling nearly twenty years after her original foray.  When  the first plus sized modeling agency was opening in Paris, Velvet sent her photography portfolio, along with a picture of herself, saying that as a plus sized woman she knew how to make the models feel comfortable.  But the agency wanted more pictures of her, eventually asking her to sign with them as a model.  “I thought, this is crazy.  I’m 39 years old, 300 pounds, and … I’ve gone through this really amazing journey of self-acceptance and now I’m kind of reaping the rewards of that.”

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Velvet’s way of styling herself and her models has a timelessness about it that I’ve always connected with.  In photos she always seems to be inspired by different time periods, from pre-revolutionary France to a 1940’s pinup aesthetic.  So I wasn’t surprised when she brought up her interesting perspective on broadening beauty definitions.  "Instead of honoring what the media’s trying to sell us, why not honor the ancestors that have come before you? … .  For me, thinking about how many people came before me was another way of thinking that I don’t need to buy into someone else’s idea of what ‘pretty’ is."

I asked Velvet about how ‘pretty’ is often limited in the plus sized community too, given that the plus sized models that seem to get the most work (like Crystal Renn and Ashley Graham) are often no larger than a size 12 and therefore don’t even need to wear plus sized clothes.  “Well, it was interesting.  When I did Galliano and Gautier [runway shows] my expectation was that the plus community would be fully behind me and they were actually my most severe critics… . [There were] forums on how awful it was that I was on the runway, how I was promoting obesity, what joke it was, that I was dragging down the plus model industry, etc., etc. by being a genuinely fat person on the runway.”  But for Velvet, this just brings up how exclusionary the whole world of modeling is.  "For me, it’s just so much more global than plus sized women… .  You’ll never have an actual person in a wheel chair in a fashion magazine.  Why is that?  There are 90 year old women who are stunningly attractive but you’ll never, or rarely, see them in a "women’s" magazine… . It’s 99.9% white women, not any other ethnicity.  It’s 99.9% very young people.  So for my quest, it’s about bringing diversity to fashion and all types of media."

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As for the debate that having more fat people in media “promotes obesity,” Velvet has this to say.  “There’s much more pressure put on [plus sized models] and it’s a form of denying our right to be included in media by constantly using the health debate, where no other person is expected to discuss their health, nor should they be… .  It’s an utterly ludicrous notion that we as fat people aren’t allowed in media, and if we are allowed in media, it’s to berate us and tell us that we need to lose weight and have some thin person screaming over you… in order to be in their glorified circle of health.”

If you’re looking to connect with Velvet, she invites to join her Facebook page and check out her photography.  Some of her upcoming projects include, a feature in Vogue Curvy, her inclusion in Valerie Berlin’s burlesque art expo in NYC, a feature on Tellement Vrai (Popular French TV show), shooting for several plus magazines in UK and US, an appearance in an Axel Engstfeld documentary film for ARTE, as well as the release of several songs in which she sings lead vocals.

Golda Poretsky, H.H.C. is a certified holistic health counselor who specializes in transforming your relationship with food and your body. Go to http://www.bodylovewellness.com/stay-in-touch/ to sign up for her newsletter and get your free download — Golda’s Top Ten Tips For Divine Dining!

by Golda Poretsky, HHC
http://www.bodylovewellness.com

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Last week, I wrote about why it’s so important to wear clothes that you like AND how to get a new wardrobe with little or no clothing budget.

So this week, I want to talk about how to figure out what you like (if you’re not sure) and what to do if you’re in a clothing rut.

As I mentioned last week, until about 5 years ago, I never wore a dress unless I felt like I had to.  Never.  Ever.  Nevuh.  I thought that I didn’t look good in dresses, had the wrong body type for them, etc.

It was only when I started experimenting and trying them on that I realized that certain dresses looked good on me and certain dresses didn’t.

The thing is that it’s all pretty subjective, right?  I have kind of an apple/upside down triangle shape (the apple turnover, perhaps?) and I tend to like things that create a waist.  To my eyes, that “looks good.”  However, I see women with my shape wear more shapeless dresses, even stuff with drop waists, and I think they look great because (a) they think they look great, (b) they have body confidence, and (c) they like what they’re wearing.

In other words, wearing clothes that you feel good in can help with body confidence and body confidence can help you look great in your clothes.

But here’s the key — if you don’t know what kind of clothes you like or what looks good on you or you’re just sick of wearing the same stuff, you must try clothes that are outside of your “comfort zone.”

If you have sort of a clothing uniform, like I mentioned in the last post, it’s important to experiment with clothes you don’t usually wear.  If you always wear black, try bright colors.  If you always wear jeans, try leggings.  If you never wear dresses, try ‘em out.

Trying on clothes that you never considered before can feel really weird, and you might feel like dismissing these clothes outright just because you’re not used to seeing yourself in them.  That’s why it’s important to treat trying on these clothes as an interesting experiment, as research, and, if possible, bring along a body positive friend to support you. I know trying on an arm full of swimsuits might be the last thing you want to do, but it’s important to make sure you feel good in it before you buy it.

Even if you try some new styles and you’re not really into it, don’t keep hanging out in the clothing comfort zone if you’re feeling bored or stuck.  Clothes are about experimentation and fun and ownership of your unique beauty.  So keep trying, keep looking, and use the tips I mentioned last week.

As always, let me know how it goes and share your experiences in the comments section below!

By the way, today is THE LAST DAY to sign up for my How To Heal From Emotional Eating In-Depth Teleseries.  Will I see you in class?  Click here for more info:  http://www.healfromemotionaleating.com.

Golda Poretsky, H.H.C. is a certified holistic health counselor who specializes in transforming your relationship with food and your body. Go to http://www.bodylovewellness.com/stay-in-touch/ to sign up for her newsletter and get your free download — Golda’s Top Ten Tips For Divine Dining!

The tips listed are solely my own, but I am receiving renumeration for one of the links.

© Golda Poretsky 2011